2017-09-01 / Columns

Love makes the world go round

Single Files
Ela Lindsay

I am thrilled to announce that I have a new love in my life! We met for the first time Sat., Aug. 5 when I went with my friend to San Diego for the day.

I can almost recall the exact time of first contact: It was about 1:55 in the afternoon, shortly after our long drive to the city.

Little did I know how instantly I would be smitten. After all this time wondering if I would ever find a wonderful guy again—one who would make my heart go pitter-pat and my eyes light up with joy—there he was.

Needless to say, these days I can hardly keep a smile off my face, not that I’d want to anyway, but I swear my cheeks hurt by the end of the day from all the grinning I do whenever I think of him.

Oh sure, the geographical distance between us might become a problem, but, hopefully, he’ll be moving closer in the near future.

By the way, I’ve been told many a time that the unknown but seemingly- all- knowing “they” always say that you’ll meet someone when you stop trying. Well, I feel like I stopped trying a while ago, so “they” might actually be right after all.

I finally reached a wonderful place in my life where I’ve been comfortable—and happy—being on my own and living by myself with my adorable pooch.

I’ve been pursuing interests, going out with friends, enjoying alone time when needed and, generally, just relishing the life I’ve been able to create for myself.

Don’t get me wrong, though; it hasn’t always been easy. When I first became single again— and, believe me, it wasn’t my idea at all—it was a total shock. The news was delivered to me just one month after I had been laid off from a great job, also an unforeseen event.

So, reeling from one huge life-changing event, I was forced headlong into another almost immediately, and it was a quick descent into panic, frustration and, in the end, depression.

To be honest, it took me quite some time to rally around again. I felt broken, betrayed and abandoned, and hope was only something I could hope to one day find again.

However, in the years since, I’ve learned a lot about life in general and ways I can create and enjoy my own existence, whether or not I’m single.

I’ve discovered the law of attraction and deliberate creation, the power of living in the moment and the essential meaning of simple gratitude.

So here I am, enjoying the present with a new love for my future—and an amazing guy to share it with!

And, frankly, I don’t even care that he’s quite a bit younger than me. Some may call me a cougar or a cradle-robber, but I assure you, I only have the best of intentions for him.

In case you’re wondering, his name is Marcus. He was born at midnight July 28, weighing in at 5 pounds, 6 ounces. Needless to say, he’s the cutest baby on the planet and I’m his Oma Ela (that’s grandmother in German). He’s the newest member in my “adopted” family and my best sister-friend’s new great-grandbaby— and we are all smitten by him.

Welcome to this wonderful world, dear, sweet Marcus! And thanks for bringing so much love and sunshine to us already.

Ela Lindsay is a single writer in Ventura County. To catch up on her bimonthly columns, visit www.theacornonline.com. For comments or suggestions, email eLindsay@theAcorn.com.

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